I felt compelled to write this article tonight because I am so saddened to hear of the death of someone who has truly changed my life. We had never even met. But I know her impact on my life. Candice Pert, thank you. For your books, for your wisdom, for your heart.
I don’t know about you, but I look at all of the wonderful people in the world who are making a huge difference, and my efforts seem so insignificant compared to theirs.
This brought up a question for me. Are you doing what you are doing because you want to be one of these people?
I have to confess, yes, eventually. There is a part of me that wants to be a Thought Leader! There, I’ve said it.
In my defence, (I’m having a defensive argument with myself going on here), a thought leader is someone who simply challenges the mainstream way of thinking that we have all ‘bought into’ in the past. Yep, well if that is the case, I want to be one. Is that so wrong? The more visible you are, the more people you can help. Ah feeling good. Oh-oh, my ego has just come romping into the equation:
“You are a self serving, arrogant little so and so! How could you possibly ever be in a group like that? Who would listen to YOU? These amazing people are CREDENTIALED. They almost have whole alphabets after their names. They are scientists! Well known in their field. They are revered! You have a music degree… OK, you’ve spent the last 12 years studying metaphysics, EFT and Matrix Re-imprinting. You’ve invested a zillion dollars travelling all around the world, studying with the best, accumulating all sorts of certificates and accreditation, but truly, who’s going to ever pay attention to you? Just who do you think you are? ”
How incredibly harsh my ego mind is. And how often I listen to it and buy into it’s take on things.
When I strip it all back, it’s simple. Of course we’d all love to be up there with the creme de la creme. And it’s fun envisioning that. You can learn from those who have gone before you and it’s great to have role models.
However, fame should not be the driving force. Your purpose should be the driving force. We all get to decide what’s important to us, and spend our energy there. Some people become well known, and some don’t. My question is, does it matter?
I am remembering my father here.
In my arrogant youth, there were often times when I thought, ‘You could be leading such a bigger life.’ But I have learned that he WAS leading the bigger life. He had worked out what was important to him , and put his energy there.
He had no public profile, he had no grand vision, he was just a Dad who was always there with his trusty toolkit to help all of his kids: helping build sets for shows that I was producing, build decks, paint cupboards, fix something, make toys each Xmas for the ‘poor kids’, being ‘Santa’ each year, lend us all of us 5 kids money when we needed it:) He was just Dad. In his garage, pottering away. Choosing what he chose.
It doesn’t matter if you are a ‘Candice Pert’ or my father, ‘Gillie Gilbertson’. Both had worked out what was important to them. That’s where their energy went. And they were both beautiful human beings.
Contribution is not equated to public profile. Contribution is directly related to what you want it to be, and living it. I’m no longer worrying too much about joining the elite thought leaders of our world. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, I’ve been living my truth and that’s pretty much all that matters.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Does fame drive you? Does it scare you? Does it stop you? Please comment, and share with your community. I can sit here and write in my little world, but it is your thoughts that keep me going,